You know when you are with the right person if you are empowered and inspired beyond your wildest dreams. Your partner should give you the “I’m on top of the world” kind of feeling.
When you are with the right person you are motivated to take your life to the next level because you are inspired to be your authentic self. If you have feelings of shame or embarrassment when you are being your true self, or feel as if you have to “tone it down” then more than likely you are with the wrong person.
In a healthy relationship, two people should bring out the very best of each other in such a way that you are driven to be your best! Remember when Tiger Woods was on top of his game and then his relationship fell apart, and then so did his game!
It’s that feeling of “I’ve got someone in my corner” feeling, pushing you and coaching you to be the very best you can be.
To have a healthy relationship you must have some common goals that you work towards. You share a passion together that keeps you focused on the nurturing and continued bonding of the relationship.
Together we unite to create a empowered life together. You also have your separate goals, and often these are hobbies that you are engaged in or perhaps clubs you are a member of.
For a relationship to be healthy you should feel strong and well grounded on your own, and even more empowered together. “Neediness” will attract a predator. Well grounded will ward off the predators.
Be strong and you will attract strong! Be healthy and strong and you will attract a wonderful healthy relationship. Go in strong and the odds are in your favor!
You can spot an unhealthy relationship almost immediately. You see disrespect in the language the couple uses with each other and the body language as well. You will see someone scold their spouse with sharp or disrespectful words in front of their friends or even strangers.
I believe one of the worst things you can do in a relationship is embarrassing each other by scolding one another in front of people. To me this is of great disrespect. Also if you have to change the way you are when you are around your spouse’s friends or family in order to please your spouse, then this is a big red flag.
If you can’t be your authentic self around each other, then you probably should do some serious soul searching before you say the “I do’s.”
All in all, it isn’t that hard to tell if you are in a healthy relationship. The biggest problem is many of us ignore the red flags we get from the “get go”. The flags are there for a reason, and it is often when we are in a state of “need” that we choose to ignore them.
No one wants to be alone and when we find that feeling of love and romance, if feels so good to us that we ignore the warning signs that will inevitably pop up again down the road.
That instant gratification of romance and feels good takes over our rationalizing skills which are crucial in the very beginning of the relationship. What feels good to us now, must also feel good, if not better down the road, when the going gets tough and if the red flags are there in the beginning, you can rest assure they aren’t going anywhere but slapping us right back in the face on judgment day!
Do yourself a favor and pay close attention to the flags. Let me give you a couple definitions of flag: mark (an item) for attention or treatment in a specified way; direct (someone) to go in the specified direction by waving a flag or using hand signals; to signal or attract attention!
A specified direction: now that is interesting. The flag is telling us to go in a different direction, and inevitably we go the opposite way for that instant NOW gratification, which bites us in the *ss down the road!
Do yourself a favor and take heed to the flags because they are there for a reason, and the reason is pretty powerful, not to mention very clear!
Just like any other addition relationships can be instant gratification and pleasure for future pain. Don’t use relationships to numb the pain today. Better to be alone and develop a strong “stand alone” person today for a better and healthier relationship down the road.
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